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Forget Black Friday – I Want a Turkey Sandwich

Forget Black Friday – I Want a Turkey Sandwich

Black Friday

I have never caught the fever of so-called, Black Friday. Somehow, waking up in the middle of the night to get in line at a giant box store to get a jump on my neighbor for this year’s latest toy… just didn’t appeal to me. No doubt… there are bargains to be had, but not at the expense of risking life and limb with the modern-day re-enactment of the Oklahoma Land Rush, or better yet, the running of the bulls in Pamplona.

Of course, it very well may have something to do with the fact that many Americans will be coming off an all-you-can-eat feeding frenzy with the rest of the family, the day before. That’s where the only thing more stuffed than those who circled the dinner table was the turkey.

The day after Thanksgiving is sometimes thought of as the day that the merchants finally go “in the black,” as in… make a profit for the year. Well, I should hope so, after all, we’re talking about the end of the penultimate month of the calendar year. Thus, answering the rhetorical question, “Have you ever thought of going into retail?”

The alarm clocks are set and so are the sights of the determined shoppers who will make a bee-line for the section of the store that has only a few of those advertised items at the amazing sales price. It’s a hook to get you in there in the first place. Maybe that’s a bit too cynical?  But hey, when that’s happening, I’ll still be cuddled up in my soft, cozy bed with thoughts of a turkey sandwich, (you can hold the sugar plumbs) dancing in my head.

The History of “Black Friday”

The term “Black Friday,” is said to have been originated by the Philadelphia Police Department in the early 1960’s when the order went down each year on the Friday after Thanksgiving. Oh, it was sounded for a 12-hr shift and no days off for anyone. They had to handle the traffic and the crowd coming to town for the traditional Army – Navy football game. The coppers didn’t like it one bit… and it became known sarcastically as “Black Friday.” The media picked it up, and the name stuck.

What I am concerned with, is not the crowds or the size of the bargains that I will surely miss, but rather, the fact that many of the warm hugs and family prayers have already vanished in the evening of Thanksgiving, as quickly as a New Year’s resolution. I can only hope that the feeling of togetherness and thankfulness would last… for at least another day.

Shop if you must on “Black Friday,” but try to keep the warm glow of Thanksgiving throughout the next several weeks as we prepare for the granddaddy of all shopping seasons. Oh, you’ll need all the strength you can get.

About Wayne Messmer, CSP

Certified Speaking Professional (CSP), Singer, Broadcaster, Author, Actor

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Don’t Let “Family Time” Be the Ball that Drops This Fall

Don’t Let “Family Time” Be the Ball that Drops This Fall

Fall is approaching. For many, it means a new season of schedules for the kids that either intertwine or conflict with school, sleep, meals, work and family life. If you find yourself lamenting each evening about how tired you and the kids are at the end of a long day, it very well could be that your family is struggling because you are out of balance with work, school, healthy foods, exercise and the countless scheduled activities.

Trying to keep my own calendar straight is a challenge, and I often speak with individuals who are trying to get a handle on their world before it spins out of control. Trying to juggle the various schedules of everyone under the same roof can seem almost impossible, unless a few simple tips and tricks are applied to bring some order to life and stop the insanity

Here are some thoughts to jump start a healthy family calendar that I’ve seen work very well for friends and family.

1. Schedule “Family Night.”
This is the first step towards a solution. The idea is simple and best of all, it can create memories to last a lifetime. It might be movie night, take-out night (think pizza or Chinese, for example), board game night, or family walk night. Be creative to pick an activity that earns the consensus of the entire crew. Personally, Cubs games, Wolves games and concerts in the park are a few of my favorite things. The important part is that a night each week is designated just for “together time.” The days of the conversation at the dinner table have sadly gone, so time needs be set aside to catch up with each other. If we learn how to relax…and talk with each other, you might be very surprised by the things you can learn from your kids on your special night.

2. Enjoy time with your child’s friends.
No kidding. You don’t always have to be the coolest house on the block. However, letting kids “hang out” at your place will give you valuable insight into your own child’s interests and motivations. A bonus is the ability to understand the “crowd” with whom he or she associates. For younger children, time spent with a friend offers actual learning lessons and experiences such as sharing, responsibility, taking turns, and countless others. Many child development social experts point out that good, old-fashioned free time for playing and social interaction can be better for a child’s development than an overload of too many organized or structured activities.

3. Let your child choose his/her own interests.Too many well-meaning parents sign their kids up for activities that offer no interest to their child. Conflicts and power struggles are sure to occur as a result. All too often we see cases where a child begs to sign up for activities, or is encouraged to do something of no interest and then wants to quit. This can be caused by a number of issues that take the fun out of the activity… yet, allows for another chance to communicate. Try to aim for an activity where you find your child self-motivated to participate. If he or she needs to be begged, bribed or scolded to get ready, then perhaps, it isn’t the right fit. Many cues, verbal and non-verbal, will indicate levels of interest, dedication and enjoyment.

4. Consider the time commitment when making scheduling decisions.
Activities often emphasize multiple practices, time and travel requirements. As the parent, considering one particular activity over another allows room for more family quality time. There is always a cost to every new commitment. Ask yourself, does being involved with this activity hinder or promote our higher family goal of quality time?

5. Determine your child’s commitment as well.
If your kid says an activity “might” be fun, avoid committing to a full season or year. Not only could it present a problem for your child if he/she doesn’t like it, but will infringe on the other players/members participating in the activity; not to mention the family’s commitment. Many teams rely on a certain number of players or kids to form a group. A last-minute pull-out could cause an impact on everyone else. If you’re not sure, consider signing your child up for a mini-camp or week-long or short session instead. If your kid loves it, then you can always seek something more in the future.

6. Be the Boss.
If everyone in the family is involved in some type of activity, household chores may be harder to get accomplished, thanks to a lack of time. At the family planning meeting, explain for each activity, everyone will have to pitch in to make sure the clothes still get washed, the dishes get done, and the table gets cleared. The key is set expectations up front and stick to them to avoid mutiny down the road. Should you hear the statement from the troops that, “You’re not the boss of me,” remind them sternly, but fairly, with a smile, that you are.

7. They don’t have to participate in everything.
Try to adjust schedules when needed to accommodate the time required for schoolwork and family time priorities. If your child’s grades start to drop, or you notice that your child is falling asleep at dinner, it is quite possible that you may be asking too much of them. Always keep in mind that despite a bottomless tank of gas and a wealth of energy and enthusiasm, a child’s age, personality, and true interests must be considered when crafting their schedules and commitments.

8. There is no “I” in TEAM.
“A family who prays and plays together, stays together,” is a solid message. The healthiest families are those where parents and children support each other’s activities and interests.

9. Always, family first.
With priorities straight, your chances for a happy, well-adjusted family increase exponentially.

About Wayne Messmer, CSP

“They Never Said It Was Going to Be Easy” – Wayne Messmer

Life isn’t easy. We all have our challenges. But what if your entire life as you knew it changed in a split second? What would you do? How would you react? More importantly, how would you overcome and march on?

Wayne Messmer knows all too well how sudden change plays out. In April 1994, a singular event dramatically impacted Wayne Messmer’s life. Nationally recognized as the “Voice of the National Anthem,” Wayne projects his powerful baritone voice from the speaking stage to help others live with eyes open for possibilities and opportunities, no matter the circumstance.

Drawing from a storied career as a certified speaking professional, singer, broadcaster, author, actor, and successful businessman, Messmer delivers a timeless message of resilience, perseverance, adaptability and hope from the stage, blogs, books and music. Travel along the journey of survival, courage and triumph with a master storyteller who combines wit, humor and music to share his step-by-step process to fight for survival and overcome adversity while facing fear head-on. Watch Video. Book Now.